Reverb12: Holiday

(For the past two years, I’ve used Reverb10 prompts to give myself a question to answer every day of December. It’s a great way to reflect on the year and set goals for the future. I’ve kept my favorite prompts, added a few from other sources, and created my own month of questions.)

Holiday. If you could take a day that’s important to you and make it a holiday, which day would it be? How would you celebrate?

Oh, how I want to throw a giant St. Lucia party! I have long drooled over the photos Joanna Powell Colbert posts about her annual shindig. I have a fantasy of moving to a small town and organizing a St. Lucia party for the whole community. Making it a thing. Encouraging everyone to bring their favorite cookies for the Sweet Room and having a local choir sing the song as St. Lucia enters. Getting everyone excited about a Christmas costume party – come as Jack Frost! Ralphy from A Christmas Story! As Krampus! As Mr. Claus or La Befana. As anyone you like! It would be awesome. A holiday celebration that didn’t involve gifts or church. Just merriment.

I know some people who got up before dawn today and greeted the sun. It was a new moon and St. Lucia’s day. A powerful day. I didn’t do anything dramatic but I paid attention to my dreams. I started using a new deck of cards. I prayed in silence and darkness before lighting a candle.

I did cut off my hair and while it wasn’t in honor of St. Lucia I could not help but think of the maiden yesterday as I watched myself change. I felt myself get younger, and when she turned me around and my hair was short I said “there I am” as if I’d been hiding under all that hair. All that grown up nonsense about what a woman is supposed to look like. All those myths that talk about goddess making themselves young again – there is something to that. In the dead of winter I am energized and refreshed. Thank you St. Lucia for lighting the way!

PS. Last year I wrote this – I do love those winter holidays!

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Reverb12: 13 Things

(For the past two years, I’ve used Reverb10 prompts to give myself a question to answer every day of December. It’s a great way to reflect on the year and set goals for the future. I’ve kept my favorite prompts, added a few from other sources, and created my own month of questions.)

13 Things. What are 13 things your life doesn’t need in 2013? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 13 things change your life?

1. Tiny bobby pins.
2. Rubber hair bands – ouch-less or otherwise.
3. Hairspray.
4. Pre-styling lotion.
5. Frizz-calming lotion.
6. Hair clips with plastic teeth.
7. Barrettes of any size.
8. Dry shampoo.
9. Big brushes.
10. Hairdryer.
11. Specialty shampoo and conditioner.
12. 15 minutes of my mornings – every morning.
13. Worry about my hair.

That’s right. I cut it off. I’ve been growing it out for two years and yesterday I just got fed up. Hair in my face. Hair needing a blow dry in the morning. Hair with product in it that makes my husband back away at the smell. Enough! I called the salon and my favorite stylist had an appointment so I just went for it. I feel a thousand times prettier. I feel lighter in more ways than one. Now I just have to deal with all the accessories that go with having long hair – seriously, how do you get rid of hair bands?

PS. Last year I wrote this…and it totally didn’t work. Lesson? Keep it simple.

Reverb12: Wisdom

(For the past two years, I’ve used Reverb10 prompts to give myself a question to answer every day of December. It’s a great way to reflect on the year and set goals for the future. I’ve kept my favorite prompts, added a few from other sources, and created my own month of questions.)

Wisdom. What was the wisest decision you made this year, and how did it play out?

I decided to fight the summer blues by signing up for a class. I often drown in all the unscheduled time of the summer months, and it takes a toll on my mood. This year, I wanted to be proactive. Ask and you shall receive, right? My favorite metaphysical shop was having an introductory tarot class for 6 weeks right in the middle of the summer. I signed up in a heartbeat, ordered a new deck of cards I’d been drooling over and made the hour drive for 6 weeks straight.

It was fantastic. It reminded me that I love, love, love tarot cards. It reminded me that I am actually really experienced with tarot reading. Seriously! I know my stuff. It also showed me that there is always a new way to look at an old image. This is one topic I will never be done with and that is quite comforting. For 6 weeks I reveled in the lovely gift I’d given myself.

If that had been it, it would have been enough. Unexpectedly, however, it taught me more about my actual job than my fantasy of reading tarot cards out of a gypsy wagon. Over and over when the professional reader teaching the course talked about her experiences you could have replaced the word ‘reading’ with ‘counseling’ and I could have been at a professional conference for my profession. It gave me enormous insight into my day job – how to set boundaries, how to help people ask the right question, and how to guide people to a healthy decision. Counselors aren’t all that different from tarot readers, really. We both deal with people who have come to us because they are unwilling or unable to deal with their own problems. We both deal with people who can’t set boundaries. We both deal with issues of mental illness, depression, and abuse. We both get down in the muck of human relationships, see people’s decision making up close and have to go home at the end of the day without everyone else’s garbage clinging to us.

It was a wise decision to sign up for a class over the summer. I am going to do that every year. It absolutely fights the summer blues. It was wise on a deeper level, however, to sign up for that exact class as I really needed some of those skills and have not been taught them before. I think the class really helped me in my work in the second half of the year.

PS. Last year I wrote this.